What makes us feel unhappy is the feeling of being disconnected from ourselves, and this is nothing more than carrying on a way of being and seeing ourselves and the reality that no longer makes sense or had never made sense but has been protracted as a necessary condition to be loved.
Ironically, deep inside orservelves, we perceive our being other than the story that we keep repeating within us, though we try to keep a blindfold lowered over our eyes because this would mean “disobeying ” a story repeated to such extent to blackmail us with the lie of being alone and abandoned if we would stop being its actors and witnesses.
Giving yourself permission to stop giving value to a “conditioned reality that places conditions on being yourself” is the way to own freedom and joy.
What you want is to like yourself and enjoy the pleasure of being yourself, let it come and stop kicking.
The choice is yours.